If you build your own grab bar.....

Like I said in a post on this before,Use low grade bolts.Use the lowest grade you can find.The bolts will break before the frame.
 
I already welded it today, didn't get a pic, I don't think its as bad as your imagining though. It broke about an inch away from the rear of the frame right where the down tube for the sub frame is welded on. No biggie...
 
now you gotta change your user name to "twicebustedass"